MBTI Musings: Are INFJs ever lonely?

Loneliness means feeling sad due to a lack of company or friends. I periodically miss specific people, but I don’t feel lonely.

I don’t think there is anything in the INFJ cognitive function hierarchy that would lead to loneliness. If anything the fact that we lead with introverted intuition means we have such an active imagination that it’s easy to entertain ourselves alone. Many introverts are good at self soothing.

But it would make more sense that single people without children would feel alone more often because they are actually alone more often. If you feel lonely, it is a signal that you need to be more connected to family and friends.

I can relate to the feeling that few people meet me in the air — the cerebral realm that gets the meaning within the meaning.

I think the reason people are so enamored with the idea of twin flames and/or soul mates is because of the longing to have someone who “gets you” on all the different levels — intellectual, sexual, emotional and spiritual.

Even if you are able to entertain yourself, there is great value to be found in the company of others. The key is to surround yourself with people who are positive and uplifting.

Also, aim to be polite with your interactions with strangers and people you know. It takes a long time to build trust and build something positive — but only a split second to topple something wonderful that could have been.

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