Go Date Yourself: The Science Behind Personality

Always fascinated by personality typing, I love the way our understanding of an individual’s patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviors changes and expands. While the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is helpful, I feel that, within its limited framework, I still haven’t found what I’m looking for (song by U2).

By the light of the hermit’s lantern (a lava lamp), I started making connections between the MBTI system and genomics science. Genomics science correlates various personality traits with specific genes.

‘Go Date Yourself’ unveils the new studies and findings behind personality typing so you might know yourself better.

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Whether you are in a solid relationship or solo, it’s rewarding to know yourself – what makes you tick.

Although I never hear anyone play the Charlene song, “I’ve Never Been to Me,” anymore, the title of the song brings to mind the desire for self-knowledge and inner order. Don’t be the vacuous person who regrets not knowing who you are because you spent days being undressed by kings and drinking champagne on a yacht. We all know girls just want to have fun (Cyndi Lauper), but sooner or later you have to think about propriety.

For tips on propriety (not one of the Big 5 traits), see the 1972 What’s Up, Doc movie in which Judy (played by Barbara Streisand) answers Eunice who asks Judy whether she knows the meaning of the word.

“Propriety; noun: conformity to established standards of behavior or manner, suitability, rightness or justice. See etiquette,” the delightful and mischievous Judy says while going up an escalator.

Getting back to the topic at hand. Once you have your DNA tested, there are numerous sites for analyzing the raw data to give you insights not only into your ancestral background, but also personality and health.

One of the author’s grandmothers worked as a nurse mid-wife in the city at a time when women in America had limited career options.

When it comes to interpreting raw DNA to discover health and personality traits, I personally like Genomelink — a site that relies on genomics science.

One of the things I love about Genomelink is that they are very transparent. With some specific findings, the scientific reliability is fairly low because the results are based on small sample populations and suggestive studies.

The personality section — which I’m about to cover in more depth – almost completely aligned with my self-evaluation as an INFJ. Also, the health, physical appearance, intelligence and fitness traits rang true.

Chapter 1: Dissecting the Big 5 Traits

  • Agreeableness

The first personality trait I’m going to cover is agreeableness, which is one of the five personality traits in the ‘Big 5’ model. I have the genetic markers for a stronger tendency to be agreeable. Agreeable is a tell-tale sign of a feeling intuitive as we are generally helpful, trusting and compassionate.

INFJs are the “mediators.” We like to get along with others and like to see other people get along.

If you are a middle child, like me, the mediator thing is even more apparent.

  • Conscientiousness

The next result from Genomelink is conscientiousness, another five-factor model trait. It says I’m more conscientious. Sometimes I can be too conscientious where I obsess on a project but I can also be a slacker — which is a generational habit. I think people could fall anywhere on the conscientiousness scale regardless of MBTI results.

Conscientious people look for partners who are likewise conscientious. Don’t let chemical attractions distract if you value compatibility in this area.

  • Extraversion. According to Genome Link, I have a stronger tendency to be extroverted. I can be enthusiastic and talkative. For sure, I’m an extroverted feeler. And I 100 percent have the brain chemistry of an introvert. I much rather spend time with my bougainvillea plant over people. Picture me in an ancient monastery sharing my eschatological beliefs with a favorite Druid friend. Again, probably a middle or younger child with no claim to the throne. I’ve always gotten along better with introverts and intuitive types.
  • Neuroticism. For neuroticism, I’m pegged by Genomelink as intermediate on the scale. I think turbulent people are more entertaining while less turbulent people are boring and dependable. Opposites attract, in my opinion, when it comes to this trait. Neuroticism is only a problem when it is a symptom of a personality disorder. At the same, extremely stable people might misinterpret.
  • Empathy. The results said I have high empathy which is true. I don’t know any INFJs, ENFJs or INFPs who are not empathetic. Rarely would anyone need to test their DNA to figure out if they have high empathy. It’s still interesting to see the results.
  • Facial Emotional Recognition Ability. Weaker ability. Not true. I’ve taken the Internet test that shows you faces of people — and asks whether they are sad, angry, happy etc. and I always score high. That being said, it is a little suspect that I even take those tests.
  • Anger. Less easily angered. True. I’m more likely to feel angry with myself than others.

Social communication problems. Less easily prone. Correct. Although sometimes it’s fun to pretend…

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